Ask HN: How's Everyone Feeling Today?

I'm tired, worried and particularly burnt out.

16 points | by arm32 1 day ago

12 comments

  • highhedgehog 12 hours ago
    Not that good. Struggling at work. We had a series of hard issues in a row and I felt being accused for poor work in the past, when while it is true I should have understood technical stuff in the past better, a lot of this was due to technical debt.

    I am seeing the end of the tunnel, but I hope nothing else comes up for a while or I'll have a mental breakdown.

    On top of this I'm struggling with my little kids. They are giving us a hard time going to bed on time, keep coming up, and I get frustrated with them and hate myself after because I have a reaction and get mad at them.

    I just hope this period passes soon.

    • unified101 11 hours ago
      Heres something I learnt ont eh kids side for bedtime routine: choices and consequences. You can have a discussion with them about the choice they have on bedtime, and what the likely consequence can be (getting up late, not going to school etc). Then let them make the choice and bear the consequence. It's both trust building, and genuinely gives agency and outcome to the kids. Not sure if you can implement this, but if you can, it helps.

      Don't wish for the period to pass, since parenthood is a sequence of these challenges, this will go and the next one will come. It's rather a chance to "upgrade" your parenting.

      Wishing you the best.

  • fullStackOasis 12 hours ago
    I'm feeling okay. I got to go climbing this week. That tends to elevate my mood. But sometimes, I think I'm in a long-term state of permanent burnout.

    Do you mind saying what worries you? And why you're feeling burnt out? I hope it's a transient thing.

    • oldsklgdfth 7 hours ago
      you ever go climbing and it doesn't meet your expectations and that disappointment rolls into the next work week?
  • spottedmarley 1 day ago
    I'm kinda bored waiting for a coding agent to signal completion on a long run. A little hungry (it's almost lunch time). In good spirits.
  • moizrocky1 11 hours ago
    I found my "one" and I apparently "lost her." Praying she returns... not another temporary run, but this time really have a future together.
  • jryan49 1 day ago
    Kind of sick of people copy pasting my conversations in slack to AI, that just leads me to talking in circles.
    • gaws 10 hours ago
      Solution: "Let's hop on a call."
    • yogibear678142 1 day ago
      Bro you gotta fight AI with ai. Just have u AI chat with their Ai while you take a break.
      • jryan49 1 day ago
        Yeah I probably should just give up trying at this point lol
  • echoscarrie 15 hours ago
    I wonder if I’m the only one here who knows nothing about coding.
    • gaws 10 hours ago
      You're not the only one.
  • toomuchtodo 1 day ago
    "Up and not crying." as the Norwegians say.
  • NishanStepak 1 day ago
    Relaxed and full after a nice cup of iced ovaltine.
  • david927 1 day ago
    Ready for a change.
  • fuzzfactor 1 day ago
    Pretty good at this point, still not totally eclipsed :)
  • gokuljs 1 day ago
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